Meet the smart vibrator that wants to help you get better at getting off
“This tiny vibrator’s size makes it perfect for partner play, since it can be discreetly slipped into an overnight bag for a spicy sleepover,” says Alvarez Story. Indeed, it’s one of the smallest bullets available that also manages to be decently strong. With one button for toggling through both settings and speeds, it’s easy to use and even waterproof for bathtime fun. While its less-intense settings may not be ideal for those who enjoy (or need) a powerful vibe, my clitoris is incredibly responsive, so the fact that I could use the Vibrato sans-panties was a huge perk for me. I also love that while the handle-turned-dildo portion can vibrate, it only does so when turned on; when it’s not activated, it doesn’t buzz at all. This means when I used the toy as a wand vibrator, my hand didn’t numb out—a common complaint I have with some other vibes.
On top of all that, the material felt soft against their skin, and the detailed instructions and diagrams helped them to get the most of out of the device. So, if you’re on board with the concept but don’t know where to start, let us be your guide. The long and short of it, ahem, is that these toys feature two curved appendages (one mini, one biggie) that stimulate two pleasure points simultaneously, otherwise known as dual-stimulation. If you have a vagina, those hotspots will be internal and external—the G-spot and the clitoris—but the shorter end can also be used to stimulate the prostate. This shorter arm is how the toy got its moniker in the first place, since many feature flickering “bunny ears” for textured stimulation that feels good and looks adorable. Bellesa has long been at the forefront of sexual wellness innovation viberators, and WhisperBullet is no exception.
But if you’ve got a ring that’s flexible enough, like this favorite of Zizelman’s, it can be stretched around the base of your shaft and your balls, increasing its positive effects. “Around the shaft, you are going to get restricted blood flow to help keep a strong and longer-lasting erection,” Zizelman says. But despite the balls and scrotum typically being relegated to a supporting role (if that) in any given sexual encounter, there are countless inventive ways to stimulate them. For instance, cupping them , stroking them, and tugging on them can feel good. Vibrators, cock rings, and ball-stretchers can all create interesting scrotal sensations.
In case you didn’t know, Lovehoney has one of the biggest sex toy collections we’ve ever seen. Lovehoney’s main forté is sex toys, but you can also spot its impressive stash of lingerie and accessories like lube and bondage gear. “Easy to use, especially for people who may struggle to hold on to small objects or other sex toys, this vibe slips right over the tip of your finger,” says Balestrieri.
With the Satisfyer Pro 2, you can experience the explosive goodness of oral sex all on your own. Designed by sex-pert Tracey Cox, its sleek, ambiguous look and small size are both geared toward inconspicuous use. Just slip it inside your bag, backpack, or purse (or elsewhere, ladies) for intense pleasure at a moment’s notice. It’s better to think about these factors before shopping, so you can avoid any unpleasant surprises after purchase.
“The toy can be controlled by either partner through the We Vibe app — this definitely spices things up,” Reeves says. However, some people say that technical difficulties with this toy— such as a faulty connection or incorrect display information — can interrupt the fun. If you have any questions or run into difficulties, the customer support at Crave is also much beloved.
I suggest using your vibrator in conjunction with lube, which will help your toy glide gently across your clitoris instead of tugging at it. If you have a silicone toy, you want to avoid silicone lubes, which can break down your new purchase. It’s a water-based lube (safe for silicone toys!) that has the same wonderful texture as a silicone lube. “When men only use their hands to regularly masturbate, they essentially get used to that one sensation/grip/pressure,” explains Dr. Tara, a sex educator and coach.